Muslims are expected to treat all people as individuals, and not try to force their children to be something they are not. They should accept their natural qualities, encourage their good points, and gently steer them away from bad characteristics.
The most important thing a parent can do for a child is to set a good example, so that the child grows up devout, kind, independent, and able to help others.
They should give the child the best possible education, not just to be clever but so that they may be able to earn a living and be independent. They should help them to make happy marriages, so far as it lies in their power. They should neither be negligent nor over-protective, but train them in a good way of life.
Ibn Abbas reported: ‘He who has no compassion for our little ones and does not acknowledge the honor due our elders, is not one of us.’(Tirmidhi)
Incidentally, the Blessed Prophet also praised the woman who was bereft of male support and did her best to bring up her fatherless children on her won: